by Julie Myers, PsyD
Sometimes, when you slip in your recovery, your confidence may slip with you. You may believe that you don’t know how to change your behaviors, that somehow the slip means that you are right back to square one.
But is this a rational belief? Have you really forgotten all that you learned? The answer is no.
When you move towards recovery, you begin to change your behaviors, thoughts and emotions, sometimes in subtle ways. You may have some favorite SMART tools to help you, such as the wave (urge surfing), ABCs, or making changes to your lifestyle. Sometimes, when people slip, they forget about these tools or simply stop practicing the tools that were effective to change their behaviors in the beginning.
Here are some suggestions if you find yourself faced with a slip and feel discouraged:
- Review the SMART tools. Are you still practicing them?
- Brainstorm by writing down all the things that are going on right now under the headings Thoughts, Behaviors, Emotions. Do you notice a pattern?
- Begin by using some of the tools that were most effective for you in the past to address some of the issues developed in your brainstorming.
- Next, add a new tool by looking in your SMART Recovery Handbook or on the tools page of the SMART Recovery website.
- Finally, be confident that you know how to change your behaviors! Then, write in your journal or post a reply to this blog article about how you managed to regain your footing; it will help you consolidate your confidence.
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